Boss Lady is a series that shares personal insights from creative women in business. This week we chat with Kristine Fredheim, author and founder of Soul Life, a company set out to help others achieve lasting inner peace. Kristine shares with us her journey towards mastering her gift, starting her business, and creating a fulfilling career for herself. She also shares expert advice for women looking to find success in the workplace.
1. Can you share with our readers a little about yourself and your career?
I’m a 27-year-old mother of two and psychic medium/spiritual advisor from Stavanger, Norway. I’ve had a very hard life filled with family drama, so I used my experiences and my spiritual gifts to help others in need and created a fulfilling career for myself. Connecting with people and making them feel less alone with their grief is one of my biggest passions in life.
2. What was it like starting your company, Soul Life?
At first, it was definitely hard financially. It took some time to establish a solid clientele, but I have to say, I’ve been pretty fortunate. People believed in me and gave my business a chance. After a year of hard work, I started to receive plenty of opportunities. People have really been spreading the word about Soul Life and it’s the best feeling in the world!
3. What inspires your mission to help others?
I went through my father’s death and my battle with depression alone. I’m a very strong woman today and know that I’ll always have my own back. My experiences also made me trust myself and I realized I could go through anything on my own—but at the time, I really needed support. That’s why I felt drawn to help others.
4. Describe your typical workday.
I’ll generally start off my day by answering emails and doing interviews. Then, I’ll book readings and make sure everything is in order with my clients. Most of them live in the US and Canada, so there are many different time zones to keep track of! Getting the right time can really make my head spin! After that, I’ll wedge in a workout and do some household chores. My day will then end off with readings in the evening after the kids are asleep. I usually have 3 readings a day, depending on how much I decide to take on that week.
5. You’re trained in Neuro-Linguistic Programming; can you summarize what that is and what it entails?
NLP is a method of influencing your brain behavior through the use of language and other types of communication to enable a person to “record” the way the brain response to stimuli and manifest new and better behaviors. NLP often incorporates hypnosis and self-hypnosis to help achieve the change that is wanted.
6. Between guiding others in life, raising two boys, and working on a third book, how do you find balance?
Balance is something I always strive for. That’s why it’s really perfect that I control my own work hours. My kids are in kindergarten, so I get most of it done while they are away. At the moment, I’m not in a huge rush to release my third book—my ideas are still stewing, so time is my best friend!
7. What inspired your decision to write your first book?
I’ve always wanted to be a writer, but I was never quite sure what kind of writer. I began writing songs at 12-years-old, then moved on to poems and short novels as I got older. It was after my father’s passing that I felt the need to write about it and share what really happens to the people who are left behind after suicide.
8. You’re a medium and went to school to perfect your gift, can you tell us the most important lesson you learned while you were there?
I learned to open and close my channels. Before school, I would be open all the time and the onslaught of visions and thoughts would be exhausting and scary. Now, I can close them somewhat to protect myself, so that unwelcome spirits don’t bother me as much. Applying this lesson created more balance and it’s nice to be in control of what I can do with my gift.
9. What sort of resources do you read to stay informed within your industry?
I read a lot of books. Everything from Drew Barrymore to Dr. Brian Weiss. I love learning about people’s life experiences. They help me in my own work. Right now I’m reading Rising Strong by Brene Brown and I ‘ve learned so much about feelings. My favorite book on spirituality is Only Love Is Real by Dr. Brian Weiss. It really is a life changer!
10. What is your advice for women looking to find success in the workplace?
Be aware what you think and say to yourself. Women need to be nicer to themselves! When in doubt, I say affirmations out loud. That really helps me get out of my own head and creates a powerful positive energy. When you’re nervous, scared and anxious, talk to yourself and push through. We are so much more then just our emotions—that’s why it’s important to not let them stop us from achieving our goals. Also carry your own truth. By that, I mean don’t let anyone tell you who you are and what you’re capable of doing. Only you know yourself! And be the best version of it.